How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself and Reconnect With Your Inner Voice

If you ever feel stuck overthinking your choices or quietly doubting every next step, you are not alone. I see this constantly with women who are capable, thoughtful, and deeply self aware. And yet they hesitate. They second guess. They wait for reassurance before moving.

In this episode, I talk about what actually happens when women stop trusting their inner voice and why reconnecting with your intuition is not a glow up moment. It is a return. You are not broken. You have just been taught to second guess yourself.

We talk about the conditioning that pulls women away from their own knowing. The people pleasing. The survival seasons. The perfectionism that turns even small decisions into something that feels heavy. I also share personal moments where I avoided taking action, including the time I built an entire website and then refused to launch it because I was scared.

This episode is for the woman who is ready to stop outsourcing her decisions and start trusting herself again. Not louder. Not faster. Just more honestly.

3. Trusting Yourself Is the Real Glow-Up

Why We Lose Trust in Our Inner Voice

None of us come into the world doubting ourselves. That habit is learned slowly and quietly.

From a young age, many of us are taught to be good, to follow the rules, and to look outside ourselves for approval. Add in people pleasing, hard seasons, and mentors we place on pedestals, and eventually it feels easier to assume someone else knows better.

As I share in the episode, every time you silence your own voice to follow someone else’s path, you move a little further away from your own inner wisdom. Over time, this creates a gap between what you know and what you allow yourself to choose.

Signs Your Intuition Has Gone Quiet

When your inner voice gets quieter, it rarely announces itself. It shows up in patterns.

You Ask Everyone Else What They Would Do

If you check with friends, mentors, or group chats before checking in with yourself, it is a sign you are doubting your own guidance.

Small Decisions Feel Heavy

When tiny choices feel overwhelming, perfectionism or fear is usually running the show. In the episode, I describe this as making everyday decisions feel like a high stakes negotiation.

You Are Waiting for Permission

If you feel like you need validation, approval, or a sign before moving forward, your intuition has likely been buried under noise.

How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself and Rebuild Self Trust

These are the seven grounded practices I walk through in the episode. They are simple, practical, and designed to fit into real life.

1. Slow Down Enough to Hear Yourself

Your intuition does not speak when your life is loud. Intuition does not shout. It whispers.

A quiet moment in the car, a walk without your phone, or a few minutes of breathing creates space for your inner knowing to surface.

2. Make Small Decisions Without Crowdsourcing

Start with low stakes choices. Post the idea. Choose the outfit. Say yes or no because it feels right.

Each time you choose for yourself, you reinforce the belief that you can trust your own voice.

3. Keep the Small Promises You Make to Yourself

Self trust grows through consistency, not big outcomes. When you say you will do something and you follow through, your nervous system learns that you are reliable.

Start small. Let trust build naturally.

4. Learn to Separate Fear From Misalignment

Not all discomfort means something is wrong.

Pause and ask yourself whether the resistance you feel is fear from growth or a genuine sense of misalignment. This distinction becomes clearer with practice.

5. Reflect on Your Wins

You need evidence of your own capability.

Looking back at the last few months helps you see the ways you have already moved with courage, even when the steps felt small. Reflection strengthens confidence.

6. Take the Next Step Before You Feel Ready

I share in the episode how I avoided launching my website for eighteen months because I did not feel ready. Everything shifted the moment I hit publish anyway.

Action creates clarity. Waiting rarely does.

7. Pause Before You Ask for Permission

The next time you reach for advice, stop and ask yourself what you would choose if you fully trusted yourself right now.

Then take one aligned step. Even if it feels imperfect.

What Self Trust Actually Feels Like

Self trust is not dramatic. It is steady.

It feels like a calm yes or no that arrives before the overthinking starts. It feels like realizing you do not need forty seven opinions to move forward. You need a quiet moment, a coffee, and the willingness to ask yourself what you already know to be true.

Gut Instinct Versus Intuition

Gut instinct often arrives fast and physical. It is the jolt or the pull.

Intuition is quieter and deeper. It feels like grounded knowing rather than urgency. Both matter, but intuition strengthens when you give yourself space to hear it.

Questions I Hear Often

How Trusting Yourself Changes the Way You Lead

Trusting your inner voice is not just a mindset shift. It is a leadership skill.

When you trust yourself, decisions get clearer. Boundaries get stronger. Your business starts to reflect your truth instead of outside pressure. This is the foundation of the work I do inside my coaching and inside CEO Besties with women who are ready to lead from their own wisdom.

Practical Takeaways

Create small quiet moments to hear yourself
Make decisions without crowdsourcing
Build trust through small consistent promises
Practice separating fear from misalignment
Reflect on your wins regularly
Take one small step even if you feel unready
Ask what you would choose if you trusted yourself fully